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25 Signs Your Man Is a Keeper!
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Whether you've just met or you've been together since high school, do you know if you're truly involved with "the one"? Before you waste any more of your life building a future with someone who doesn't deserve you, make sure that your guy is worth keeping by examining these 25 signs. If your man isn't living up to these simple things, it might be time to move on!
Relationships take a lot of work, and you don't want to spend your time giving more than you're getting back. You can't build a solid future with someone who doesn't put in as much effort as you do. While we're not talking about huge issues like who pays the bills, we are pointing out the easy things a guy can do to let you know that you matter in his future landscape.
You have worked hard to become the person you are, and any man worth keeping should enhance your life. Your relationship should be a cornerstone of comfort in your life, and we're hoping that your guy can live up to the things we think he should be doing. For your own sake, please make sure that he is everything on this list. You're worth keeping, and he should be, too!
"The one" will ask you what you think!
When you've found a man worth keeping, you'll never have to hold back your opinion. In fact, the perfect man will make sure to ask you what you think, how you feel and what you want to do next. You make up 50% of a relationship, and everything you have to say should matter to the person you call a partner. If you are dating someone who takes your opinions and your feelings into account, you have surely met the right one!
Watch his behavior when he goes to the dogs.
You can tell a lot by a man's hands or his shoes, but you can also get to know them quite quickly when you watch their behavior around animals. Is the man sitting next to you ignoring the puppy that wants his attention, or is he throwing the ball with a smile on his face? The way your date treats our furry friends will certainly let you know how gentle, patient and accepting he will be to you and your every mood. Especially pay attention to the way he treats your pets!
You're the only fish in the sea he sees.
If you reach the point in your relationship where he starts mentioning deleting his Tinder account, you might have found yourself a keeper. When playing the field is no longer on his agenda and he wants to make your relationship exclusive, you should take him seriously. Many men would love the option of an open relationship, but only a committed man will want to make you the one and only apple of his eye. There's no clearer way to say how much he's into you!
He always makes sure you have a good time.
Anyone can take someone out for dinner and a movie, but a guy you should think about keeping will make sure your dates are always fun. Whether you hit up the local arcade or he takes you to your favorite lingerie store, his attempts at catering to your entertainment should be taken seriously. If he were not all that interested in you as a serious partner, he wouldn't make your time together as special as he does.
When you achieve, he's happy for you.
If your man does not celebrate your success, it's time to let him go! It's easy to say that someone has your best interest at heart, but there's only one way to tell for sure. Being happy for one another and cheering one another on are two important parts of a relationship. Any man worth his salt will beam with pride when you achieve your goals, and he'll lend a hand when you could use a little help getting there.
Your hobbies are not that weird to him.
Your keeper might not understand everything you are into, but it's always a plus when he takes an interest. Whether it's gardening or roller skating, the man in your life should acknowledge the things you enjoy. He doesn't need to be an active participant with you in everything you do, but asking questions about your projects and occasionally getting involved with your hobbies are signs that you should keep him around.
He vibes with your tribe.
While it might be true that your pets are good judges of character, the opinions of your friends should always be taken into account when you bring a new man to the next dinner party. If you notice that he is fitting right in with your friends and that they are embracing him without awkwardness, pay attention! Your friends are your support system, and it's important that your man can be one of the gang without forcing himself into the mix.
You get alone time to be you.
There might not be such a thing as a perfect man, but a man who can give you the space you need to be yourself is worth more than money! In order to have a healthy and balanced relationship, it's good to have separate interests and to have time away from one another. If you have the type of guy who doesn't need to know where you are every second or send you a million texts while you're out with your friends, you have a good guy on your hands!
All your nerves melt away when he's around.
Being in a relationship where you feel like you have to walk on eggshells can be tedious and unhealthy. You shouldn't have to question or restrain yourself when you're with the man of your dreams! In fact, you shouldn't feel any nervousness or awkwardness at all when you are with him. The best relationships stem from the ability to let your guard down, and you know you've met the right one when you feel more like yourself in their presence.
The past is gone and the future is now!
Have you ever been on a date when a guy couldn't stop talking about his ex? Dating can be frustrating, but it's even more stressful when your man seems to be paying more attention to the past than the present. True keepers focus solely on what they see in front of them, and they look forward to the future. When he starts talking about you in a future context or in his future plans, you know you've met "the one."
He gets bonus points for taking notes.
A little bit of thoughtfulness goes a long way, but it can go all the way to the altar if your guy is playing his cards right. No one wants to date a thoughtless thug, and it doesn't take a lot of effort for a man to remember your favorite foods, places and treats. Hopefully, you are dating the kind of man who remembers the things you like. If he can remember your favorite trinkets or the way you take your coffee, you can count on him to remember all the important stuff in life.
His feelings are never hidden.
Dating a real drama queen can be tiring, but dating someone who can show his emotions is a sure sign you're dating a keeper. You shouldn't have to guess what the other half of your relationship is thinking, and no one needs to play the tough guy role all the time. Open lines of communication are essential to the health of your relationship, and you should value a guy who isn't afraid to show you his every mood!
You don't have to steal the blanket.
We can't think of many things more romantic than a man who makes sure you are all tucked way in bed! Sleeping next to someone shouldn't resemble a tug-of-war. For any relationship to truly work, you need the kind of man who takes your basic creature comforts to heart. The next time he covers you up or asks you if you want anything before you fall asleep, count your lucky stars that you have met the kind of guy your mother might consider the marrying type.
Sometimes he shows up with food.
While we are not suggesting you turn your boyfriend into a delivery boy, we are saying that you should take note when he brings you food during a long shift. The kind of thoughtfulness it takes to consider your partner's stomach during times of stress is a quality any keeper should have. It's his way of taking care of you, and you should feel special to have someone who cares so much!
When you're in doubt, he's right behind you.
During the course of any relationship, there are bound to be trying times. The kind of man you should consider keeping around is the kind of guy who always has your back. Whether you are struggling at work or planning to take on the world, your partner should walk every step of the way with you. If he can stand back, ready to catch you while you do your own thing, do yourself a favor and propose right now!
A little apology makes him a big man.
Any guy worth keeping should be able to admit when he's wrong! There's nothing worse than dealing with a man who refuses to ask for directions or lacks the capacity to apologize. Should you and your favorite guy get into a spat over money or a board game, he should be able to offer a sincere apology for any wrongdoing or misunderstanding. Please don't waste your time with the kind of person who always needs to be right!
Your business remains your business.
It's great to be open and communicative in relationships, but a certain level of trust is mandatory. Your man should not spend his time hovering over your shoulder while you are working or texting your friends. You wouldn't want to know every last word he's saying to his friends, so he should value your privacy just as much. It's a true red flag when you're dating the kind of guy who needs to poke his nose into your privacy, and you should avoid it at all costs!
He doesn't try to fix you.
With so many potential dates in the world, there's not a single reason you should date someone who wants to fix you. You are beautiful and accomplished just the way you are, and anyone who thinks you need a remodel clearly has control issues. A man worth keeping will accept all your flaws, quirks and idiosyncrasies. You shouldn't have to change a thing about yourself to be loved, and a good man wouldn't bother trying to make you into anything other than who you are!
You're not his mother.
You managed to handle your life before your man came along, and we're assuming that he managed to do the same. When you are in a relationship worth nurturing, no one should have to parent the other party. You should want to build your life with a man who can handle his own business. It's great to be there for one another, but a long-lasting partnership sees both parties able to function without the other's constant assistance.
Without asking, he helps out.
Let's say you are carrying a few heavy bags of groceries, and your man is sitting on the couch playing video games. Does he get up to help you, or does he motion for you to get out of the way? Your partner should serve as a helper in your life. While our example may be small, pay attention to the ways he pitches in without being asked or nagged. A guy who will jump right in and try to make your life easier is the guy you will want to keep!
"Please" and "thank you" are in his vocabulary.
Some might say that chivalry is dead, but manners are still very much in style! As you get to know the special man in your life more, take a moment to see how well he treats others. Is he polite to waitstaff? Does he say "please" and "thank you" when it matters? You need the kind of man in your life who is mindful of other people. You do not need someone who is rude and who treats others badly. The way he moves through the world will tell you a lot about how he'll treat you.
The two of you can meet in the middle.
During every relationship, there will come a time when one or the other of you has to compromise your viewpoint. Make sure that you are not the only person stepping up to the plate! A guy with your future in mind will be willing to meet you halfway. He'll never need to have it his way or no way, and he'll be able to be giving even when he disagrees. You won't always get your way, but you will cherish a relationship where middle ground can be found.
You always get the last bite.
Sharing a dessert or a plate of cookies is a great way to bond with your guy, but make sure that he'll sacrifice the last bite for you. It might sound petty, but such a simple gesture can say a lot about someone. Instead of putting his own desire ahead of yours and snatching the last donut, he should at least offer to share with you. You deserve a future with someone who is always keeping your pleasure and well-being in mind. Getting the last bite is an easy way to tell!
Everyone likes thoughtful surprises.
While thoughtful gifts can warm up any holiday or birthday, a gift you weren't expecting can mean even more! The kind of guy who randomly surprises you with things he knows you will enjoy or that you've been wanting is the sort of man you'll want sitting across from you in 20 years. Surprising you is just another way of letting you know that you've been on his mind. His taking such a bold step to make you happy is something you should celebrate!
Your day is important, too.
Your boyfriend should always be interested in the kind of day you've had. It shouldn't always be about him. It's great to ask him how things went, but it's important to notice his level of reciprocation. He shouldn't try to weasel out of the conversation when you are telling him about your day at the office; he should listen like it's the most interesting thing he's ever heard. Then, and only then, you will know you have found a guy who cares about all aspects of your life.
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