About This QuizShould you allow your children to invite friends on a vacation? Take our quiz to help you decide whether to let your kids invite friends on a vacation.
What should you first decide before allowing your kids to invite a friend along on vacation?
whether to have an active vacation or a relaxing vacation
whether to invite a friend who is an only child
whether the vacation is to be family only
Before agreeing to allow a friend to come along, think about whether you want this time to be exclusively devoted to family bonding. Once you've decided that, then it's time to consider whether you have room in the car or hotel, whether you can afford the added expense and whether you're willing to have the additional responsibility of another child.
How should and your child decide which friend to invite on a vacation?
Make a list of which friends your child prefers.
Together with your child, write a hierarchical list of your child's friend preferences. If your first preference isn't available, make sure not to mention to the others that they aren't first choice!
Have your child name two friends, and then flip a coin to decide which one to invite.
The parent should decide which of your child's friends will be the best behaved.
Who is the ideal friend to take along on vacation?
the child whose parents can afford to spend the most
the one you and your child know best
The ideal friend is the one whom you and your child know well. This way, you know the friend's parents will be comfortable with your family dynamics and parenting style.
the most well behaved child
What should you do if you are unfamiliar with your child's first choice of friend?
Bring him or her so you can get to know the child.
Invite the friend over more frequently and get to know the parents for next time.
Don't invite the friend on vacation this time, but invite the friend over for more play dates and get to know the parents for next time.
Do a background check of the friend's parents.
When should you make it clear that you need financial assistance from your child's friend?
as soon as you invite the child
You must make it clear from the outset that you need the parents to cover some or all of the costs of bringing their child along.
when you pick up the child to leave for vacation
when you bring the child back from vacation
What aspect of taking your child's friend along with you will make or break the vacation?
whether the child is clear on the rules and discipline for misbehaving
How clear you are to the friend and his/her parents about your rules and the consequences for breaking them will make or break the vacation. A good idea is to have the friend's parents tell their child that you are in charge for the duration of the trip.
whether the child will be homesick
whether the child is fully vaccinated
What should the parents of the friend provide you regarding medical issues?
a copy of the child's health insurance card
a letter giving you permission to make medical decisions
both of the above
It's a good idea to ask parents to provide a letter giving you authority to make medical decisions, as well as a copy of the child's insurance card. A letter saying you have permission to be looking after their child for the dates of the trip is also a good idea.
What do you need to provide to the parents of your child's friend before your trip?
a copy of your latest tax return
an itinerary and contact numbers
You should provide the parents of your child's friend with a detailed itinerary and contact information for you while on your trip.
a statement that you will assume responsibility for the child
Even if the parents agree to contribute financially, what do you need to clarify?
who can decide how the child's money can be spent
You need to clarify how much money the child will have and what it will be used for. If the child gets extra spending money, you need to decide who will be responsible for managing it -- you or the child.
that you might need more money after the trip
that you'll need an emergency credit card
If you have other children, what do you need to consider when inviting a friend on vacation?
how your other children will get along with the friend
whether your other children can also bring a friend
both of the above
You need to consider how well your other children will get along with the friend, as well as whether all of your children can bring a friend.