Do You See Yourself as Others See You?

By: Mark Lichtenstein
Estimated Completion Time
4 min
Do You See Yourself as Others See You?
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About This Quiz

We each have a mental picture of ourselves, and that picture almost never reflects reality. How well does that picture reflect others' mental pictures of you?
Are you the life of the party?
My friends and I are.
I am.
I usually am.
Is there a party? No one told me...
Are you cool?
I'm so cool.
I'm fairly cool.
I'm pretty cool.
I don't even know what that is.
Are you a good listener?
I am.
I think I am.
I try to be.
I am, but I don't get to be very often.

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Do you actually care what people think?
Of course I do.
Not too much
Not much
I only care about it.
How many besties do you have - that is, folks you could call at 3 a.m. if you were desperate for someone to talk to?
Three
Two
One
None
Do you like yourself?
I love myself.
I like myself, sure.
I'm at peace with myself.
I think I'm fine.

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Do you ever make a joke at someone else's expense, then worry you went too far?
The first part yes, the second, no
Yes, and yes
No, and yes
No, and no
How extroverted are you?
Very
Mostly
A bit
Not very
Does the sight of an empty calendar fill you with joy?
No! Dread!
No, I feel like I'm not working hard enough.
It depends on the time of year.
Yes

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Do you think you are good at relationships?
I'm great at it.
I'm good at it.
I'm okay at it.
I'm terrible with relationships.
How long do your relationships typically last?
A long time
A few months
A few weeks
It depends a lot on the relationship in question.
Do people generally call you back and return your emails?
Always
Mostly
Usually
Sometimes

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Were you popular in school?
Yes
A bit
Not very
Not at all
As far as you know, is anyone at work avoiding you when they can?
One of my peers is, but everyone agrees he's a weirdo.
Not really
I don't get into politics.
Everyone agrees I am a weirdo, so everyone.
Do you curate your social media presence very carefully?
Yes, like my pals
Yes, but more than my friends
I curate it very seriously.
No

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How often do you lie?
Infrequently
A couple times a week
Frequently
Almost every day
What's an example of a white lie you told recently?
My friend's hair looked fine.
My friend's clothes looked fine.
My friend's face looked fine.
My hair looks fine.
What's an example of a really bad lie you told?
My friend's significant other broke up with them.
My friend's significant other was cheating on them.
My friend's significant other didn't like his or her family.
My significant other knows my friend's significant other isn't the gender they claim to be.

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Have you ever been caught talking smack about someone behind their back?
Yes, and I'm not proud of it.
Yes, and I'm proud of it.
No, and I'm proud of it.
No, and I'm not proud of it.
Have you ever fallen out with a friend because they said you were not honest?
No
Not that I recall.
Once or twice
Several times
Do you take a long time to choose an outfit when you go to see your friends, or just throw on whatever - they know what you look like, after all?
I just walk out with whatever is on my back.
I don't bother with much.
I try to spruce up a bit.
I dress to the nines.

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Do you compare your life to your friends' lives?
No
Not often
Often
Frequently
When someone gives you a compliment, do you secretly think they are just being nice or trying to manipulate you?
I think they're being nice.
I think they're being mostly nice.
I think they're being mostly manipulative.
They're definitely being manipulative.
Can you take a compliment by just saying, "Thank you", or do you feel obliged to demur by saying, for example, "Oh, no, I didn't do that all by myself"?
No
Not really
Sort of
Yeah

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Do you feel comfortable hugging your friends?
Yes
Usually
Sometimes
Never
Do you know how to take constructive criticism in the spirit it is intended?
I don't take it well
I usually take it well
Usually I do
I do
Do you know how to give a critique in a kind way?
No
A little
Sort of
Yes

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Do you shy away from confrontation?
Yes
Usually
Sometimes
No
Are you considered rude, as far as you know - but sort of in a good way most of the time?
A bit
Sometimes
I don't think so
Yes
Do you remember your friends' birthdays without Facebook?
Yes
Most of the time
Some of the time
Never

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