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About This Quiz
No one ever said that relationships are easy. We're sure that even John Legend and Chrissy Teigen have their "off" days. Let's face it — when you've been with someone for a long time, they occasionally get on your nerves. Sometimes you might not feel like listening to a long story about your partner's job or doing your share of the dishes. But most of us do those things anyway because we care about making our partners happy.
There's a big difference between a relationship that's marked by everyday annoyances and a relationship that needs work. If you feel frustrated at times by your partner, that's totally normal. However, if you feel like your partner doesn't really take the time to listen to you or respect your boundaries, your relationship may be unsupportive.Â
Of course, many relationships fall between these two extremes. How do you know if your relationship is mostly supportive, slightly unsupportive or in need of repairs? That's where this quiz comes in. We're going to ask you questions about how you and your partner typically relate to each other. If you answer us honestly, we'll be able to tell you how your relationship ranks on the supportive to unsupportive spectrum. Ready to learn more? Let's get quizzing!
Happy and relaxed
Depends on what we're doing
Neutral
Mildly irritated
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Yes. Not only do they ask me questions about the story while I'm telling it, but they also remember details from the story later.
Yes, most of the time. But if my partner is stressed out about something else, they sometimes don't listen very carefully to me.
My partner says "Yeah" and "Uh-huh" when I talk but doesn't seem genuinely interested in what I'm saying.
No. My partner says that most of my stories are boring.
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Since we both work, we split chores 50/50.
The partner who doesn't work does the majority of the chores.
I do a lot more chores than my partner does.
To get my partner to do anything around the house, I have to nag and nag and nag.
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My partner!
My mom. But then I'll call my partner!
My best friend
I don't know. I don't have a lot of close friends.
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No. They know we shouldn't spend all our free time together.
They're only annoyed if I don't tell them about the plans beforehand.
They grumble, but I don't think they actually mind that much.
Yes. They say it means that I'm not focused enough on our relationship.
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Of course. Sometimes I even tell them things that are kind of embarrassing.
I probably could, but I like to keep some stuff private.
I think so? I'm not sure.
No. My partner might not respect me if they knew everything about me.
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No, never!
I don't think so.
They did once, but they apologized after I told them how much it bothered me.
Yes, unfortunately
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Yes. We are best friends.
I think so. We have a good time hanging out.
I'm not sure we'd be friends if we weren't together.
Our connection is mostly physical.
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Daily
Whenever they seem down
Whenever something really big happens
Very rarely
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We've talked about those issues and are on the same page.
Our goals for the future are roughly the same, although we need to discuss what our time frame is.
We've never talked about that.
We don't see eye to eye on this stuff, but I'm hoping they'll change their mind.
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I say, "Tell me all about it!"
I make myself a cup of tea and settle down to listen.
I put on a "patient" facial expression and prepare to suffer through it.
I say, "Ah geez, right now?"
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Yes. It's not hard, because my partner has great taste in people.
I like some of my partner's friends (but not others).
I make an effort with them, even though they're not my kind of people.
No. They're all sort of horrible.
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I try to do little things for my partner all the time.
I surprise them with gifts for all the major holidays.
If it's their birthday, I try to treat them to something special.
Surprise gifts? Who am I, Santa Claus?
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No. We mostly agree about politics.
Every once in a while we debate each other, but it's never meanspirited.
They used to, but they stopped doing so at my request.
Yes. They think my ideas are really bad.
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They feed me chicken soup, bring me tissues and pamper me!
They try to take care of me, even though they're not good at it.
They give me cold medicine and the remote.
They ignore me until I'm better again.
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I'd agree that we could spend more time with them ... within reason.
Ask them why they wanted me to do that
Reluctantly agree
Tell them "No way!"
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Yes. We actually met through a shared interest in music, books, sports, etc.
We have at least two shared hobbies.
We don't have many interests in common, but we are both willing to learn more about each other's passions.
No. In a lot of ways, we're opposites.
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Every time
Most of the time, unless they have a work conflict
They don't, unless I happen to be performing at an event that interests them for other reasons.
Not usually
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No way!
I'm fairly confident that they would not.
I'm not sure.
Maybe!
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We try to take turns at this.
I do a little bit more of this than my partner does, but it's fine because they contribute in other ways.
My partner does more of this work than I do, which makes me feel guilty.
I always have to do this; my partner doesn't remember stuff like that.
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No. Why would someone do that to their partner?
They tease me, but in a very sweet, affectionate way.
Not usually. They know I don't like that kind of thing.
Yes. They say they're "just kidding," but it really hurts my feelings.
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Yes. They bring me my favorite food and beverages, ask if I want to talk and give me a massage.
Yes. They make an effort to be extra considerate.
Somewhat. They might give me a hug, for instance.
No.
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Yes. They always follow through on what they say they are going to do.
Yes. Unless something major is going on, my partner keeps their word.
Probably. My partner means well, but that doesn't always translate to them following through on promises.
I never know if they will or not, to be honest.
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They ask me to sit down and talk about our conflict.
They passive-aggressively stomp around the house before letting me know what's up.
They say things that are harsh and critical.
They sulk for hours.
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All the time
Yes, if my partner thinks those things are cool.
Sometimes my partner acts skeptical if I mention wanting to try something new.
My partner doesn't understand why I'd want to try new things. Sometimes they even act suspicious of it.
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Laugh it off
Ask me about it, but not in an intense way
Make a few pointed comments later
Act very jealous
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Yes. They're always talking me up to friends and family.
Sometimes, especially if we're at one of my work events
No, although I think they'd do it more if I asked them to
No. There's not that much to brag about, I guess?
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We decide together.
We argue about it, but in a lighthearted way.
I choose what we watch, at least most of the time.
My partner always chooses what we'll watch.
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Yes. It helps us coordinate our schedules.
No, but that's a good idea!
No. We prefer to have very separate schedules.
No. I never know when my partner will be coming or going.
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Every day!
At least once a week
On my birthday and at Christmas
Almost never
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