Tell Us How You'd Solve These Relationship Dilemmas and We'll Guess How Long You've Been with Your Love!

By: Zoe Samuel
Estimated Completion Time
9 min
Tell Us How You'd Solve These Relationship Dilemmas and We'll Guess How Long You've Been with Your Love!
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About This Quiz

They say that the course of true love rarely runs smooth, and there's certainly truth in that. Indeed, if everything seems to be going perfectly smoothly and there are no roadblocks or bumps at all, that suggests something is seriously amiss and simply not being addressed. It's a sign of more trouble, not less.

The key is knowing how to resolve conflict in a way that is healthy for both partners, ensuring that they are heard while minimizing the hurt done to the other partner. Couples can work together to make the course of their love run smoother than it might in the face of life's curveballs, from illness to job loss to having to be long distance to meddling relatives to all sorts of other challenges. The couples who make it are the ones who listen, who keep showing up emotionally and practically, who never place their own needs ahead of the team's or their partner's needs, and who remember to ascribe good motives to their boo's behavior rather than assuming the worst.

While women are typically assumed to be naturally better at relationships, generally their only advantage is that they get years of training based on this assumption; men are expected not to know how to do these things as well. Of course, the rewards for men who learn and show up as equals in the labor of the relationship are enormous, with true closeness and lasting love becoming likelier than not. The best couples both take the time and effort to keep on showing up for each other - and they get better with time. That's why we can probably figure out the length of your relationship just from learning how you handle the speed bumps and travails that life throws your way!

Your boo wants pizza and you want sushi. What do you do?
Get Thai. We both secretly wanted that anyway.
Whoever's turn it is to choose, they choose.
Get what I want. They can do what they like.
Get what they want and pretend to like it.

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Your boo is consistently late home from their book club. What do you do?
Expect them to text if they are going to be late so I don't worry, then go to bed.
Leave the house so they come home to an empty house. Then they will learn.
Wait up and have a fight
Dump them!

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Your boo and your mom don't get on. What's the best way to handle it?
Unless it's something really major like my mom tried to sabotage the marriage, I expect them to be civil and be in a room together as needed.
Tell my mom to be nice. Advise my boo on how not to provoke her. Ultimately, I chose my boo so Mom has to respect it.
Tell them to just live with it. Mom was here first.
Dump them. My mom knows what is best.

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When you fight, how often do you think about leaving?
Once a year maybe
Once a month maybe
At least once during the fight, but I get over it.
Never at all! They're so great!

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If your boo is wearing an outfit that looks awful, do you say anything?
Yes, before they buy it
Only if they have time to change
No, it would hurt their feelings.
My boo could never look awful, for they are perfection.

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Do you worry about whether you like all of their friends?
Nah, we each have a few the other dislikes. We just don't foist them on each other.
Yes, I have gotten rid of a few but I can't seem to get Creepy Carl to go away.
I worry but not too much.
If I don't like their friends, that means we are doomed.

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If they have mental illness, how do you help them?
Get them into suitable treatment then support the plan. You can't love someone out of mental illness, no matter what the movies say.
Take care of things like the house work and remind them about appointments, whenever they get bad. Comfort them a lot.
Love them really hard, then they will feel better.
Dump them. I have too much of my own crap to handle.

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If you disagree about what kind of car to get, what do you do?
Write down what we each need from a car within our budget then agree a compromise. Unless we can afford two cars, then do that.
Get the one they like. I don't care that much.
Get the one I like, or else.
Whoever is paying more gets to pick.

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You see a flirty message to your boo from one of their colleagues. Do you mention it?
Yes, we have a standing joke about Flirty Florence. She's harmless, flirting is just the way she communicates.
Yes, I want to know what's up.
Only after stewing for a while
No, I just go flirt with colleagues of my own. Two can play this game.

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One of you wants to move in but the other doesn't believe in cohabiting before marriage. What do you do?
Agree to a limited time period and if things are going well by the end of it, getting engaged and setting the date.
Get engaged so they reconsider
I don't see a way around that.
Dump them if they won't comply with my way

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You're stuck in separate cities for six months. Is this the end of the relationship?
No, that's nothing at all.
I doubt it, we can figure it out.
Probably
Oh, yes

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If your boo has a cold, what do you do?
Care for them as much as I can.
Care for them until I'm tired then tell them to buck up.
Give them Nyquil and get out of there.
Avoid them. I don't want to get sick.

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Your boo has a pretty serious diagnosis. What's the first thing you do?
Clink my ring against their ring and remind them they are not in it alone, then book them a second opinion.
Promise I have their back and will take on the bulk of earning or housework if they need.
Research the disease online until I scare myself to death
Dump them. Too much, too soon.

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Your boo has lost their job. What's your first move?
Comfort them, put on a movie to watch to cheer us both up, and assure them we're going to make a plan and get through it.
I get upset because I can't help it but then I make them a nice dinner.
Honestly, I'm kinda mad.
Dump them. I need a boo with funds.

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You hate your job but you two need the income. What do you hope your boo does?
Talk to me about plans to increase their income, get me a side hustle or get me into classes that'll help me move on.
Be very sympathetic and ensure we do nice things together to make up for it.
Tell me to quit and promise they'll handle it.
It's not on them to fix my life.

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You have important exams coming up. How can your boo support you?
Do most of the housework and emotional labor, and check in regularly to see what else I need.
Ask me what I need and keep quiet in the house.
Get out of my way.
That's all on me, honestly.

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You put your foot down about something the kids did, but your boo let them off. What's going to happen next?
We'll regroup in private, agree on a plan, and present a united front.
There's gonna be a fight, but not in front of the kids.
There's gonna be a fight, right here and right now.
We don't have kids yet.

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Have you ever hung up the phone on your boo?
Not in ages!
Only when the alternative is losing my temper at them.
Yes, a few times
No, we have the opposite problem that we can't end our talks.

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Have you ever walked out and slammed the door?
Not for years
Yes, but only once recently
A couple times
I haven't been that mad yet.

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You got so mad that you said some things you didn't mean. How do you make it better?
Apologize, mean it, and don't make it all about me. Do better in future.
Apologize a lot!
Pretend I never said it.
Ghost them. I can't handle the giult.

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One of you is sick and unable to have sex for a while. What's the other likely to do?
Live with it. Snuggle more if their health permits.
Be distressed but try not to take it out on them.
See if there are any alternatives they can do and bring a little pressure to bear to try.
See other people

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One of you thinks going to a strip club is cheating and the other doesn't. Who's going to get their way?
Whoever thinks it's cheating does; the other one agrees. If you love someone you don't break their heart over a stupid strip club!
The one who wants to go agrees to rules like no personal dances, being honest, or only going with colleagues. The other meets them halfway by not objecting.
The one who believes it is not cheating will have to make their case and accept that the other one may not be able to adapt.
The one who believes is cheating needs to dump the other one because they are not compatible.

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You left your phone open and your boo looked at your messages. What's the next step here?
I don't care, they can look. They have all my passwords.
We discuss the rules around looking at phones and whether they did it because they don't trust me. Then we move forward.
Oh, there is gonna be a fight.
Dump them. That's invasion of privacy.

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If one of you works long full time hours and the other is part-time, who should do more cleaning?
Whatever you've agreed. Maybe the lower-hours worker does a lot of child or elder care, or their health isn't so good. Not all work is paid.
It depends on the type of job, but generally the longer hours person should get to delegate a little.
The shorter hours person should do much more.
The shorter hours person should do it all.

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Your boo wants to be friends with their ex but you think it's a bad idea. What's going to happen?
They trust that I have a good reason and decide to drop it.
I verbally bludgeon them into doing what I want.
We have a big fight and then I acquiesce.
Drop 'em. I'm not going to compete with the ghost of relationships past.

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Your boo's family is insisting you both go to them for Christmas. Your family doesn't care about Christmas. However, Christmas is your only time off and you really want to just be with your boo. How do you compromise?
Go to Christmas but only for the day itself, then take a trip
Go to Christmas but moan all the time
Probably give an ultimatum
Dump them. Too much drama.

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Your boo secretly lost $500 gambling and didn't tell you. As far as you know, this is the first time. How are you going to resolve it?
Agree to rules to stop it exceeding an amount we can afford to lose, then if that's how they waste their fun money, that's on them.
I'd be very angry and insist they never gamble again.
I'd want assurances this wouldn't be a regular thing.
Their money, their business

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Your boo says something really hurtful. Did they mean to do it?
Obviously not
Probably not
Maybe
No one could say that by mistake!

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The worst has happened: your boo is dying. They want to blow 10K on an amazing last trip together. It'll have to be mostly your money. What do you do?
Do it. I'll make more money later but it won't buy me another hour with my true love.
Do it, but only for a fraction of that.
I can't commit to that.
Dump them.

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Your boo decides they aren't going to vote because, "One vote never changed anything." Irrespective of who they would vote for: what's the next step?
Leave them. I don't care if it means divorce and selling the house. You don't vote, you aren't my boo.
Make them vote. Control of the whole of Virginia hinged on a single vote so one vote DOES matter!
Like them a lot less
Ghost them. They obviously suck.

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