Tell Us About Your Relationship and We'll Guess the Gender of Your First Child

By: Zoe Samuel

Tell Us About Your Relationship and We'll Guess the Gender of Your First Child
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About This Quiz

It used to be the case that certain relationships were mostly centered around having children. If you couldn't produce children - and in many cases, specifically if you couldn't produce boys - then the relationship was considered to be a waste of time. Indeed, many women throughout history have been blamed for "failing" in this regard, whether or not the issue was on their side, with women from Anne Boleyn to millions of unnamed wives being beaten or even murdered.

Fortunately, nowadays we are more enlightened, and we know two things: One, that any child is a blessing regardless of their gender, and two, that people are allowed to postpone children or only have one or two (or even none!) if that's what is best for their relationship, finances, and personality. However, this hasn't erased pressures on couples that vary depending on whether they have a boy or girl first. For example, men  become more pro women's rights if they have a girl first, as suddenly they realize that sexism isn't academic and that the person carrying their legacy forward may be unable to do so because of it. Meanwhile some people insist that girls or boys are harder or easier to raise, for all sorts of reasons. 

The upshot of it is, that your child's gender may impact your relationship in surprising ways. Let's see if we can spot the gender by finding out a little about you and your boo!

How long have you been together?
4 years
7 years or more
2 years
Under 2 years

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Did you know the gender of your first before they were born?
Yes, we knew.
No, we didn't care.
We knew but told nobody.
Nope

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How many kids do you have?
1
More than 2
2
0

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Do you and your boo go to church/temple/etc together?
A couple times a year
Yes, we're very involved in the community.
Nope, too busy
Every month or so

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How early on did you discuss children?
In the first month or so
In the first few months
Immediately
Not for a few months at least

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How often do you take a night off to just be together?
Every other week
Weekly
Almost never
Whenever we want!

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How do you divide the child care?
One of us does the lion's share.
Our kid is mostly self-caring so it's quite easy to divide up.
Shift pattern
We don't have to.

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Does one of you tend to be more of a disciplinarian?
No, kids will be kids.
Yes, you have to teach kids to be good people.
I'm trying, man, but no.
Nah, that sounds like a lot of work.

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Do you ever challenge your boo in front of the kids?
Never!
I don't mean to but sometimes it slips out.
Constantly
I haven't yet.

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How old were you when you met your boo?
20-30
30-25
Over 35
Under 20

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Did either of you have kids from a previous relationship?
Yes, two
Yes, one
Nope
No, thank goodness.

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Did one of you want kids more than the other?
Yes, they did.
Yes, I did.
No, we were both mad for it.
We both aren't that bothered.

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Does one of you think the other is a little overprotective?
Yes!
No, quite the opposite.
We don't have time to be overprotective.
I doubt that will come up.

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What is your most common parenting disagreement?
Letting the kids get away with anything
Being too limiting on what the kids can do
Who did the most of the icky stuff
When to start

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What's the best thing about parenting?
Legacy
Teaching
Love
An excuse never to go to a club again!

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How has parenting brought you closer?
Yes, mostly.
Yes, but in some ways it has done the opposite.
At first it nearly broke us, but overall yes.
I doubt that it will.

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What did you learn about your boo from co-parenting?
They are more traditional than I thought.
We both have a lot of cultural BS we need to de-program from ourselves.
They have reserves of strength I never knew about.
Nothing yet

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Could your boo order for you in a restaurant and pick something you like?
Nope
Yep
I'm not picky enough to answer this!
Don't know

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Does your extended family play a large role in your relationship?
Yes, a good amount
Yes, more than I'd like
Not as much as I would like
No

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Do you have any pets together?
Cat
Dog
Many pets
Not yet

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Who was the driving impetus for moving in together?
They were.
It was mutual.
I was.
It just sort of happened.

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What dealbreaker did you both agree on first?
We both wanted kids sometime.
We weren't going to have a "traditional" relationship.
We both wanted kids really soon.
We are still working on them.

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Did you care what gender your children were?
Yes
Not much
Not even a tiny bit
I don't even know why anyone would.

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Did you plan kids, or was it a delightful surprise to find the first was coming?
We planned.
We were surprised.
We didn't just plan, we spent money making it happen.
We aren't sure we like surprises.

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Did you always agree on how many kids you wanted?
No
Yes
"More than none" was as far as we got!
We still haven't decided yet.

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If one of you has to be away, how often do you call home?
Every few days
Every other day
Daily
It hasn't come up yet.

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Do you agree on how to dress your kids?
Yep!
Nope!
We can't afford to be fussy, so we just take what people donate.
We haven't discussed it.

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Does your child look like your boo?
Yes
No
They look a bit like both of us actually.
I'm not sure yet.

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What was your boo's biggest hope for your child when they were born?
They would be a mini-me of my boo.
They would be safe and happy.
They would fulfil their potential.
I'm not sure.

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What activity do you and your boo love to do with your kid(s)?
Throwing a ball or learning to bike
Reading together
Painting, drawing, crafts, etc.
Anything's good for us really.

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