What Element Represents Your Family's Love?

By: Tasha Moore

6 Min Quiz

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About This Quiz

Of the four major elements, fire, earth, wind and water, which one would you say represents your family's love? Now, hold that thought! Take this personality test to see if your personal assessment matches the one that we'll analyze for you based on a serious of probing questions. Give your honest responses to get the best feedback possible.

Is your family's love like a ball of hot fire? Do you anticipate disagreements no matter what? Or is the love of your kinfolk like the earth, logical and calm but a bit cold? You'll get lots of great advice from earthy, level-headed members of your familia, but maybe not too many hugs. Then there's the flighty, windy type of love. Yes, it's an unreliable love, but at least your low expectations will help protect your heart from being shattered into a million pieces like shards of glass. Good news, yeah? Last but not least, there's the watery, boo-hoo emotional type of family love. The tranquil water types are superb but don't catch these families mid-typhoon, or you'll get caught up in the worst way!

Fire, earth, wind or water? Scroll on and see if we can get it right!

Is there a member of your family who must control the actions of other members?

All family members vie for control.

No one family member tries to take control.
We have a sense of who should take control at the right time.

Different members take control at random moments.

Do family members tend to assume that love for one another will always remain?

Our feelings can grow so intensely that we forget that it may not last.

At times we take our love for granted.
We are sensitive to gradual change over time.

Our feelings fluctuate quickly, so we don't make the assumption.

Are there times when family members don't talk for long periods of time for no apparent reason?

When feelings surge, we get loud. But for the most part, we are consistent with our communication.

Sometimes family members get moody and do not talk.
We don't speak a lot, but we share great energy.

Members of my family are very talkative all the time.

Do family members resolve disputes when they happen or do you all let issues fester over time?

We resolve our issues rapidly.

Unresolved issues tend to fester over time.
The same issues tend to come up again, even though we think we've resolved them.

New issues always arise, never old issues.

What is the nature of your family arguments?

Intense

Boisterous and confrontational
Logical and calm

Erratic

What usually results from family arguments?

Arguments cause us to give each other a clean slate.

We are left feeling burdened and damaged.
Arguments sometimes weaken strong bonds.

We may fall down, but eventually we get back to important family business.

Does one unresolved issue tend to bleed into other issues?

Some issues contaminate other family issues.

I think my family members have been arguing about the same issues.
We do a good job keeping issues separate.

There are so many new issues here and there.

Is your family still grappling with circumstances that erupted in past generations?

We are dealing with some debris from past generations.

We are dealing with a flood of issues from past generations.
Circumstances from past generations spring up from time to time.

No, we don't deal with circumstances past generations.

What issues threaten to remove the family's protectors?

Monetary

Abandonment
Natural aging

Mental illness

Do family members fall into assumed roles or is the sharing of roles fluid?

We tend to assume the same roles.

Our roles are very fluid.
The siblings tend to switch up roles, but the parents keep the same roles.

Two or more family members attempt to assume the same roles at the same time.

Is the consensus that everyone feels better or worse after a major fight?

We all tend to feel better.

We feel bad when serious damage has been done.
We feel bad when there's an imbalance or an unresolved matter.

Family members tend to forget that we even had a fight.

Do family members prefer to eat out?

Family members eat out and at home.

We feel more comfortable when we are out of the house.
We are creatures of habit and eat at home all of the time.

We love to try new places to eat.

At mealtime, do family members tend to converge at a common place or does each member grab a plate and find separate places to eat?

One of us chooses an unconventional spot, and we all follow.

We stick together at mealtime, at different times.
We converge at the same place, at the same times.

We tend to do our own things at mealtime.

How does your family handle hard times?

The love that we generate carries us through the hard times.

A good collective cry always relieves anxiety.
We talk it through.

We try to distract one another with trivial matters.

Do other people look to your family as a shining example?

Yes, we are very prominent in our community.

We tend to flow just like the other families.
Folks look to us for some things more than others.

People don't think my family is a reliable example.

Do family members withhold secrets from one another?

We blurt the hottest secrets.

We don't withhold secrets; we are transparent.
No matter how hard we try to hide secrets, eventually the truth comes out.

We're always gossiping about each other to each other.

Do family members take the time to ensure that the house is clean?

We are aggressive with our cleanliness.

Yes, take as much time as we need to clean.
We are not sticklers about dirt.

We are not clean at all, and we're proud of it.

How diverse is your family?

We all look like brothers and sisters.

All shapes, colors and creeds are in my family.
The females look alike, and the males look alike.

None of us look like we're related.

What's the ratio of love gestures versus more practical activities that occur among family members?

There's more drama than the business of running a household.

We exhibit more love gestures than other gestures.
We maintain a balance of love gestures and practical activities.

Love gestures and practical matters are so intertwined; it's hard to distinguish the two.

Do you get the sense that when family members use the word "love" that they mean it?

If we use the word we mean it, and some!

Sometimes we use the word too loosely.
We have a good sense of the word and use it at the right times.

For the most part, we don't know what the word means.

If your family hangs around other families for too long, does your family tend to pick up the other families' habits, be they good or bad?

We are the ones who make the impressions on other families.

We pick up the bad habits of other families.
We pick up the good and bad habits of other families.

We don't pick up any habits.

Would you describe your family's love as simple or complicated?

Our family's love is complicated, but occasionally it's simple and contained.

Our love is simple, but it can be overwhelming.
Our love is always complicated.

What we define as love always changes from simple to complicated and back to simple, within seconds.

Can family routines get boring?

We never get bored since we find a way to make routines exhilarating.

Yes, our routines can become stagnant.
We appreciate our reliable routines, so they're never boring.

We don't keep a routine.

Is it easy for outsiders to upset your family dynamic?

It's not easy to disturb our passion.

Yes, it's too easy.
It's easy to disturb our family dynamic, but we find balance, eventually.

We are the ones upsetting other families.

What role does your family assume at large functions, like family reunions?

We are the life of the party.

We are the comic relief.
We are the ones giving others advice.

We are the ones dancing and running around from table to table.

Do you think your family members could run a successful business to pass on to future generations?

No. We'd burn through our profits and work time with elaborate jaunts and vacations.

Our love is strong enough to sustain a business for years to come.
We consider the business of family to be the best business there is.

We would need to diversify our businesses in order to be successful.

Are there one or more strong personality types in your family?

We are all strong personalities.

As individuals we are weak, but together we create strong bonds.
There is one person who is a consistent strong personality.

We are all quite flaky.

Has your family kept detailed records of past generations?

Every few years or so, we rewrite our history.

Our records were destroyed in a flood.
We can trace our family for many generations.

Unfortunately, don't bother with anything serious like that.

What type of advice do family members offer one another?

We give each other bad advice, no matter what.

We're into new-age advice.
We share reliable ancient wisdom.

We offer a mix of insults and advice.

Are there many "tall tales" and myths that your family shares during the holidays?

The myths we share change from holiday to holiday.

We look forward to hearing the same stories.
We share harsh truths from year to year.

We love to lie to each other.

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